The “I” in R.E.S.I.L.I.E.N.C.Y. stands for individuality, just like this Leaning Tower of Pisa. It’s one of a kind. And so are you.
Things that stress you may or may not stress others. In other words, stressors, to some degree, are individualist. How you cope with these stressors is also unique. Here are some questions to think about
- When you think back to a challenging time, what personal traits strengths pulled you through?
- What kind of coping skills did you implement?
- Have you ever thought about what your strengths are?
To get started, consider the following:
Take a strengths test. Strengths Finder 2.0 is a quick online assessment (you will have to purchase the book to get a code inside the back cover). Another excellent website with a variety of assessments is http://www.authentichappiness.com. An array of assessments – in varying lengths – can confirm your strengths.
Why is knowing your strengths so important? Because these assessments clearly identify your strengths so you can celebrate and utilize them as much as possible to buffer stress. If you get in the habit of incorporating these strengths into your everyday life, it will be a natural tendency to employ them while a challenging stressor, acute or chronic, occurs.
Choose positive behaviors. Ever heard the phrase, “Don’t trouble your trouble?” If you’re in the midst of an ongoing life “storm,” the LAST THING YOU NEED is to compound it with bad choices. Some examples include: overeating, shopping to extreme, alcohol, sex without boundaries, addictions of ANY KIND, and the list continues. If you are choosing any of these behaviors by default mode, STOP. Get to the root of what’s really going on. These behaviors are only a symptom of something deeper….
Start by choosing healthy behaviors to replace the bad ones. Think of hobbies too! This is a lead in to my next suggestion:
Create a Top 10 List. In my book, Change Unveiled, I title this chapter “FUN,” but it’s really addressing healthy behaviors that are good for you that become your “go to” lifestyle choices to relieve stress. Think creatively. Here are some of mine: reading, music, writing, sitting in the sun…..
If you’d like additional reading for self-discovery, I high recommend John Ortberg’s book entitled, The Me I Want To Be.
“LEAN IN” to who you are and go for it. Your strengths will keep you standing firm instead of crashing down during a time of stress.
This is Hope Unveiled!
*My book for women, entitled “Change Unveiled: Hope for Positive Choices,” is available on Amazon and Kindle.