56 Musings at 56

I am thankful for the life lessons I have learned in 56 years, many of which have been learned in the last two decades.

May my reflections encourage your life journey!

  1. I am thankful to be a 100% American by nurture and 99.3% Persian by nature.
  2. Compare yourself to no one – not their looks, their style, or their lives.
  3. All hard things are meant for growth. Don’t become bitter.
  4. God is not the scapegoat for your unfortunate life experiences.
  5. You can control your thought life.
  6. Gratitude will keep you from being entitled.
  7. You’re not perfect. Grow for growth, not perfection. If so, you’ll always be disappointed.
  8. There are toxic people in this world. Draw cordial boundaries.
  9. Sometimes the way you are treated isn’t about you at all.
  10. Life isn’t fair. Expect that.
  11. Stop living vicariously through your children, no matter how old they are.
  12. Parent your children for them to become who they are meant to be, not what you want them to be.
  13. There’s no such thing as “greener grass” whatever that means to you.
  14. Perspective is everything.
  15. Use the good china when your adult children come home.
  16. God is for you.
  17. Friends are God’s gifts. Treasure them.
  18. Be teachable. You don’t know everything.
  19. Unconditional love is a “no strings attached” kind of love.
  20. You don’t have to post your life on social media. Private and personal things are meant to be just that.
  21. Examine the “musts” and “shoulds” in your life.
  22. Do the right thing when those unfortunate mishaps occur. Own up.
  23. Address conflict. It can make you closer if handled the right way.
  24. Take ownership when you do stupid things. It’s okay. It’s not your identity.
  25. Just because you have the right to do something, doesn’t mean it’s the right thing to do.
  26. Do something nice for the person who is “down and out” who crosses your path. It’s not a coincidence.
  27. There’s no such thing as coincidence.
  28. Have favorite food for family celebrations. This creates memories.
  29. If you’ve lost a loved one, it is up to YOU to carry on their memory, not others.
  30. Don’t discuss heavy issues at night. Sleep. Then talk when the sun is out.
  31. Love your spouse.
  32. Focus on your mate’s positive traits, not the ones that irk you.
  33. Love your children because they are your children, not because of what they accomplish. That sends the wrong message.
  34. Don’t sacrifice family time of connecting emotionally to the god of education.
  35. Don’t overcommit your children. Examine your beliefs that tell you those things are a priority.
  36. Don’t post your kids’ accomplishments on social media unless you ask.
  37. Be kind. It goes a long way.
  38. If you don’t understand something, ask.
  39. Ask open ended questions when in “discussion” with anyone with a different point of view. Your way of looking at something is based on your own experiences, not theirs.
  40. Of course you’re opinionated. If you weren’t opinionated, there would be no need for tolerance.
  41. Presents aren’t just meant for birthdays or holidays.
  42. Write a letter to your grown children.
  43. Be intentional with your life. You aren’t a victim.
  44. Stop blaming. When you keep blaming, you’re walking in the wrong identity. It excuses you from taking ownership of your own life.
  45. Your life experiences aren’t your identity. Your identity is who God says you are, not what happens to you.
  46. When you’re anxious, find a scripture verse that penetrates your soul. It works.
  47. Enjoy your top 10 list of healthy behaviors. It’s your way of coping when life is a struggle.
  48. Laugh.
  49. Surround yourself with people who are good for you.
  50. Pray. It’s a way for your brain to release your concerns without ruminating constantly.
  51. Think of at least 3 things that are going well when something unpleasant is happening in your life. It balances out your brain and keeps you from spiraling.
  52. Every day is a gift.
  53. It’s never too late. Never. If you have today, you have today to change things.
  54. Take care of your body. You’ve been given only one. And you are the steward of it.
  55. Take care of your close relationships. Work things out. Don’t wait for another person to take the first step. You be the person who takes the first step.
  56. Surrender those things over which you do not have control.

Be a learner of life! Allow all of your experiences to help you to grow and see things in a new way. It doesn’t stop until God takes you home to eternity. You’re a work in progress!

 

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